DESTROYING A MANS CONFIDENCE
It doesn't take much for a man's confidence to be blown to pieces. One of the most sensitive issues for a man is his sexual performance. In almost all other respects, a man can build up his confidence and can become quite impervious to failure or ridicule. But men are extremely vulnerable concerning the issue of sex and related topics.
What happened to Peter is extremely common. This situation doesn't always occur as a result of a partner's comments or a passing insult. It more commonly develops itself in the man's mind when he compares himself to a certain image that he has built up. Most men have a misconception of what's normal. They may compare themselves to 'Long John Holmes' whose penis could practically touch the floor when erect and whose erection sustainability seemed endless. He may well have relied on injectable medication to kept himself hard.
Men don't even consider that the pornographic films he acted in could also have been filmed on several different occasions, which, when put together, appear to be just one long session.
Then there are the stories you hear at the pub or the bowls club, like: 'I can have sex three times in one night, no problem', or 'She was begging for it—she didn't want me to stop, even after an hour and a half Perhaps this does occur, but it is truly an exception.
As for women and their comments, most women are fully aware of the highly traumatic effects when making insulting comparisons about sexual prowess on a man's confidence and feelings of wellbeing. That kind of behavior usually means that the woman is out to hurt her sexual partner. She realizes how sensitive all men are and knows how much power she has over them with such comments. This becomes an exercise in manipulation.
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